Junk in Our Collective Trunk

31 Responses

  1. Casdok says:

    I had to smile!
    And i totally agree!
    We should just celebrate who we are.

  2. Theresa says:

    Brilliant Jocelyn! I love the college picture, that really could inspire a painting. You’re so much better off without that guy that turned you down, he doesn’t know what he missed out on. 🙂

  3. Glamourpuss says:

    Gawd yes!

    I developed a small eating disorder in the aftermath of Evil Ex and my attempts to free myself from the education system and dropped down to a UK size 8 (US size 4, I think). I felt fabulous to be able to buy such tiny, tiny clothes, but when I see pictures of myself from that time, I am appalled by how fragile I look.

    Embrace the curves. Fashion is idiotic. Most blokes thinks so, too.


  4. chelle says:

    Take me with you back in time! I am fortunate that my husband has the eye of a classic painter 🙂

  5. Jeannie says:

    Truth be told, most guys like a little something to hold on to. Others, well, just aren’t confidant enough. However, like you, I welcome a little ailment that makes me drop a few pounds. Because dropping poundage is wonderful in itself BUT also getting to COMPLAIN that you are dropping poundage is even better.

  6. charlotta-love says:

    I think you are BEAUTIFUL in that college picture. I love your hair. (and by love I mean “I want your hair”).

    In high school, I had the opposite problem: I couldn’t gain weight. Most people would roll their eyes and say, “Oh poor girl…” but it really was a problem. I finally hit 100lbs my sophomore year and weighed only 115 at graduation. I am 5’8″! My boyfriend at the time didn’t like to cuddle because I was “too pokey/boney”.

    I’ve been able to gain weight in the past years so I finally feel comfortable with my body.

    Bodies: we all seem to walk a tightrope between loving and hating it. You seem to lean to the LOVE side and that’s fantastic!

  7. Jazz says:

    Funny, I just posted about lipo…

    Come run away with me and we can goosh together!

  8. frannie says:

    oh, Joce— that was just beautiful.

    that picture of you is truly a treasure– as you are in the flesh!

  9. Diana says:

    Hey, psychic sister, forget that miserable E. coli with all its GI horror. Pneumonia has it beat. 10 lbs in 2 weeks. I’m thinking of marketing it and hawking it on Oprah. Say! We could go together. Sort of a dual Pneumococcus/E.coli thing. Perhaps throw in a tapeworm for maintenance?

    Could work, at least until you get hopping and make that time travel machine.

  10. lime says:

    my soul sister, you and i need to plan a trip to africa. i have two dear friends, one from ghana, the other from kenya. they both tell me in their countries women of ampler proportions are considered quite the tasty morsels. an american pal of mine who was a peace corp volunteer in botswana also said her plush posterior always got quite the attention.

    wonderful post, and i couldn’t agree more.

  11. Hammer says:

    I agree completely. I had similar issues with my peers. I find myself appreciating people of all types. Pity others can’t always see it.

  12. SQT says:

    I’ve been skinny and heavy– but no happier either way. It seems that no matter how I look I can find a way to find fault with something. I have finally concluded that it’s better to find something else to worry about.

    Like my hair.

  13. Logophile says:

    Mmmm hmmm,
    preach it, sister.
    Ive wished chubby redheads were back in fashion for quite some time.

  14. Shari says:

    You have such beautiful red hair. That guy? His loss.

    We are a nation that glorifies ultra thin bodies. The media throws out magazines with supermodels and superstars with a size of a negative 2. Even those pics are touched up to make them look even thinner.

    I hear you. I am obsessed with weight and thinness.

  15. Shari says:

    I wanted to add: We should all be happy accept ourselves as is.

  16. urban-urchin says:

    britney shaking her thang in a skimpy trashy outfit was an assault to my eyes. not because she’s 5 ft 3 and 120 lbs but because she chose an outfit that made my eyes scream. Plus I just can’t stand her. But that’s just me.

    that guy in college was (and probably still is an a**hole) look at that picture- the bone structure the hair- sister you have it going on.

    I was raised by an anorexic mother who survived counting out 800 calories a day. I flirted with bulimia post college and then realized I didn’t want to live like my mother. i rarely get on the scale, I just can’t.

  17. My Reflecting Pool says:

    Sing with me sister! I need to belt out a last song here and apparently need an accompanying Botticelli. I’ve always had curves, embraced them even. Then one day I lost all of them only to be a size 2 US. Do you know what happens to curves that go flat? They go long. Happily bounced back to normal, I’m up for a duet anytime!!

  18. Dorky Dad says:

    You could go back in time to become a painter’s subject — come on, it’s the 21st century; somebody has invented a time machine by now — but then you’d have to kill your own food and go to the bathroom in a small, rat-infested room out back. And then there’s that whole lack-of-antibiotics thing to think about.

    Brilliant post.

  19. Princess Pointful says:

    I love the photo. You look lovely and serene. It seems to capture something…

    (I know, how vague was that)

    I think it is telling, though, to reflect on the socially constructed nature on what is beautiful and what isn’t, rather than trying to pretend it is something inherent and value laden.

  20. heartinsanfrancisco says:

    I always crave auburn hair in the fall so I can look like you do in that picture, blending in with the fallen leaves.

    Americans are obsessed with entirely too many things, weight being only one of the more ludicrous.

    Even Marilyn Monroe was chubby by the Twiggy standards of today, and many still consider her the most beautiful woman of all time.

  21. my4kids says:

    I totally agree!
    I’ve got some goosh to and actually lost a little weight recently do to being sick. I was so excited! Isn’t that sad?
    I love your posts by the way I can never step away.

  22. Theresa says:

    With that lovely hair you look like you came straight out of one of Rossetti’s paintings. I am now blond again, but used to dye my hair red, and have always wanted hair just like yours (how much you askin’?). My husband actually thought I was a redhead when we met, what a disappointment he had later on.

  23. Elizabeth says:

    Wow. I just stumbled across your blog. Beautifully written.

  24. maddy says:

    The women in my family are rounded and curvy [except me] I assumed that my daughter would be a stick insect like me. She isn’t. She has an hourglass figure that is not appreciate in current society.

    When she was a teen I showed her some of those very same picture. I added the political/feminist slant when she was older.

    She’s older and wiser now, and I’m happy to say that’s she’s happy in her own skin, which makes me very happy too.

    Best wishes

  25. Tai says:

    And me? I’m a “chaise-lounge”. LOVE IT!

  26. Voyager says:

    I love this post. And right now, for a few minutes anyway, I love my jelly belly, thanks to you.

  27. AmyTree says:

    You beauty! What a photo – that boy was an idiot.
    I was very ill whilst at University and finally diagnosed with tonsillitis. For a while they thought it was Glandular Fever (or Mono, as I knew it) and one of the doctors (a silly, silly man) tried to comfort me by reminding me that ‘at least it’s a good way to lose weight’! Luckily I was too sick to care, or I would have probably tried to throttle him.

    I’ve always loved Flaming June – she’s got thighs and then some! 3 cheers for Reubenesque redheads!!

    Beautiful essay, thank you!!

  28. cathy says:

    lpojjanuGive your hubby a hug from me!
    Mine is a thin freak and I’m a RUBENS which accounts for a lot of our problems.

  29. Top cat says:

    I think you’re not only sexy but have a great mind.
    Give me voluptuous any day.

    Wanna bet the prick that turned you down is 3/4 bald and has a belly so large he hasn’t seen his penis in years.

  30. That Chick Over There says:

    Sing it sister friend!

  31. WanderingGirl says:

    I have a magnet on my fridge with a Rubens painting that says “Some day big butts will be in style.”

    I say, thank you J-Lo.

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