Ten Years Since the Blue Moon

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  1. Becky Cazares says:

    Wow, ten looks so different! The young woman is emerging, there, just beneath the surface. Beautiful! This is my favorite post, too, even though I haven't been reading your blog all that long. If I was ten again, I'd want Girl to be my best friend. Ever.

  2. Deborah says:

    I didn't think you could make me teary too, Jocelyn.
    What a beautiful story – in its intimacy, in the telling of it, in its outcome. Your Girl has a lovely regard full of intelligence and questioning wonder and I feel pretty safe in assuming that she must be a lot like her mother.

    Happy Birthday to her. Happy Mother's Day to you. Thank you for sharing this – I would have missed out on something rather special if you hadn't posted it again. Powerful, personal writing of the very best kind.

    (PS The rather odd thing is that in the novel I am (not lately) writing, the backstory concerns a pregnancy like yours.)

  3. Jazz says:

    This one always makes me bawl…

  4. furiousBall says:

    very sweet. although when you said rerun, i was expecting this…


  5. Jeni says:

    Love this story! The bit about her reaching across for her brother's hand to comfort him though, now that's really priceless. Every now and then (kind of a once in a blue moon type thing too) Maya will actually reach out to Kurtis and be nice to him instead of doing her normal thing which usually is to either push him to the floor or hit him over the head with whatever she has available to use as a weapon. Those moments are so wonderful to observe!
    And I too agree with the change in Girl's appearance -quite drastic how much more grown-up looking she has become between the ages of 9 and 10.
    And even after almost 43 years now, I think back on life with my oldest and am so thankful that she arrived and is still around -near me. Those children never cease to do that to us, do they?

  6. Jenn @ Juggling Life says:

    I think this might be the most beautiful birthday post ever.

    That is a lovely girl you have there-on the inside and outside both.

  7. Logophile says:

    Dammit, I am such a sap!
    I cried over it AGAIN.
    I did it last time, I knew what was coming, and I did it AGAIN.


    Happy birthday, kid, find me some stinking Kleenex.

  8. Middle Aged Woman says:

    Look how beautiful! The story and the girl. Not to mention Mom.

  9. kmkat says:

    Tearing up here, too — Girl has a rare heart. But we all know it didn't just happen; she learned it somewhere — Mom? Dad? Oh, yeah.

    I had a near miscarriage with #1 son — got out of the car after work and felt like, Oh, I just got my period. Wait, I'm 2 months pregnant, I'm not supposed to HAVE a period. But after an ultrasound and few days of bed rest, all was well. (He's 25 now and finishing his 2nd year of med school.) Then I had a real miscarriage between #1 and #2 son. Sad, but life went on.

    A friend at work had a miscarriage of an unexpected and not necessarily welcome pregnancy; her other children from a previous marriage, twin girls, were about 15 at the time, and her husband's children from a previous marriage were even older. When she came home from the doctor to tell her husband about the miscarriage, he said something like, "Well, at least you aren't pregnant any more," to which she tearfully replied, "But I am!" Just like yours, hers was a twin pregnancy that converted to a singleton. And that little boy has been a joy to them ever since.

  10. Erin says:

    A story well worth repeating!

  11. jess says:

    Oh… *sniffle* … you can post that one as many times as you want.

  12. cathy says:

    I think you're allowed to tell the same story over when it has such a huge and significant impact on your life.

    Happy Birthday to Little Gripper:)

  13. secret agent woman says:

    That's a wonderful story. I was told my first pregnancy was abnormal and would likely spontaneously abort, and yet, he was absolutely fine. And I also had two miscarriages. There's little easy about pregnancy.

  14. ds says:

    Beautiful story, beautiful Girl. Thank you for sharing it; it has touched me more than you can imagine.

  15. phd in yogurtry says:

    Wow! What a wonderful story. I've never known someone who miscarried a twin. I've understood it to be very rare, that the remaining baby survives. Very lucky indeed, all of you. Thanks for repeating. I'm one of your loyal readers who wasn't around when this was first posted.

  16. geewits says:

    That really is beautiful and you should re-run it with updates every year on her birthday.

  17. lime says:

    well goshdarnit, i remember welling up when i read it the first time even as i dab my eyes now. she is a gripper of the finest kind. that tenacious tenderness she gave paco is such a beautiful example of how the quiet fight that kept her within you remains in her to keep others together too.

  18. Green Girl in Wisconsin says:

    Aw geez, you made me cry, Jocelyn.
    Many happy returns to your lovely gal–Little Gripper indeed–with tenacity and a heart like hers, the world better watch out!

  19. actonbell says:

    Gorgeous post and pictures! What a happy family.
    Happy (belated) birthday to your beautiful daughter.

  20. heartinsanfrancisco says:

    Deja vu or something. Didn't you post this last year, when Girl turned nine? So happy to see all the beautiful pictures again – such a perfectly lovely child you have. Congratulations to her for attaining another year of coolth, and to you and Groom for whatever doubtless small part you played in it all. (I have daughters. It's a humbling experience.)

  21. Pam says:

    She's beautiful. So are you.

  22. chelle says:

    ahh what a crazy beginning!!

    10 YEARS! WOW!

    Many birthday wishes.

    So glad she hung on … you hung on and that it all worked out just right,

  23. christopher says:

    First time through that story for me. She is a gem, a miracle and beautiful! Well worth repeating.

    I don't know how women do it quite frankly. I can get cavities filled without Novocain. But a pregnancy?…nine months?…I think I'd be the one who wouldn't make it.

    My mother endured a severe case of the German measles during her pregnancy with me and against all the odds of the doctors and their frightening stories gave birth to me uneventfully (or quite eventfully) in the hallway outside the delivery room.

  24. Midlife Jobhunter says:

    What a great story. Your sadness, elation conveyed so well. Can't imagine the emotion. A beautiful piece.

    And, I'm jealous. A girl. Never knew how to make those.

  25. monica says:

    awww – all teared up now over her comforting words to her brother… and she looks more and more like her mother – amazing:o) beautiful AND adorable – how lucky can you get!

    happy belated birthday to Girl!

  26. Patois says:

    I always appreciate a nice, cleansing weepfest. Thank you.

  27. Dory says:

    Damn, my allergies are acting up really bad right now. Am I allergic to this post?!

    Dory at Can't Remember Diddly

  28. Jim Berg says:

    One of my favorite posts, as you know. Go Girl! And go Joce!

  29. Virginia says:

    dear teachermamabaeb, good thing i have switched from kleenex to puffs extra strength as i needed two of them just reading your blog of march 31. i will remain forever touched to have been called on when the miscarriage occurred and honored to be present at the birth of splendid girl. xxooxoxcb

  30. Maggie May says:

    I absolutely loved reading this. I had a miscarriage at 12 weeks last June and wrote quite a bit about it on my blog and was shocked how many women responded so gratefully to hear it talked about out loud. I didn't realize it was something we didn't talk about, I had never had one and never thought much about it.
    Happy Birthday to your girl 🙂

  31. Lisa @ Boondock Ramblings says:

    I just loved this! Such a gem of writing about your little girl and what a story! I'm so glad she made it! *sniff* I'm seriously going to bawl like a baby now…

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