No Dull Boys, Not Even You, Jack

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  1. Cathy says:

    Thanks I needed that. Furthermore you have given me the solution to a tricky problem that has been gnawing at me.

  2. kmkat says:

    A few minutes ago I finished laying out the minutiae of the local party’s phone and door-knocking campaign, starting with three people and ending with 3,895 phone calls and 2,890 doors knocked upon (and, I hope, Burke in the governor’s mansion and Westlund in Congress, plus a couple other people elected). It was a monumental task that required far more logistical thinking than I typically employ. I had to stop last night when my brain reached the burn-out point; I recognized that point from back when I did tax returns. It is well-nigh impossible for my brain to work its way through a complicated scenario aftert 8pm. What a load dropped from my shoulders when it was done — “ultimately, the payoff for nerves is significant.”

    Tell Byron I am in awe at his having swum from Bayfield to Madeline Island. That is clearly an impossible feat, but if you say he did it I believe you. And didn’t I meet Elijah last summer? I’d do Robotics Club if I could do it with him, too 😉

    • Jocelyn says:

      You DID meet Elijah, Kath, and so you understand the appeal. If these two boys stick with Robotics into HS, I’m totally inviting you over for their big competitions at the Duluth Entertainment and Convention Center.

      Oh, and get this about Byron doing the Point-to-LaPoint swim: he did it–over and back–in an hour.

  3. pia says:

    Love love love #7.
    And Paco. Completely get him. But he’s going to go to college and to get into school you need those spaces filled out….
    My niece began high school as the dorkiest kid on the planet. Then she discovered history competitions—they were 2nd in NYS. From there it grew. OH, band–she loved it and for many reasons colleges think it important. Many more things. She learned what she loves and what she doesn’t like.
    Now she’s a junior at Barnard teaching us about the spies the FBI put in “the abstact expressionist movement” (sounds wrong) and other things we willingly read about it.

  4. chlost says:

    Love this. Poste to FB. You are an awesome mom.
    Oh, and as a very tall girl in a very small school from the last century (when being tall was not celebrated but seen as weird-at least by the tall girl), any activity that you can lose yourself in is a gift when in high school.

  5. Robin says:

    Oh my God, woman, but sometimes I do believe we share at least a portion of the same brain. So much in this post is familiar to me and rings profoundly true. From the tactics used to manage very different children to the challenge, joy, community and solitude of train running to the need to torture your offspring with overwrought soliloquies about the meaning of life and how to find it, I hear you. Bravo.

  6. Green Girl in Wisconsin says:

    Yes. Yes. Yes.
    Tonight is the homecoming dance and my freshman son is home with his family playing Clash of Clans not giving a rip about the rest of his school. It makes me a little sad, but then I look at who HE is and what HE wants and how can I be disappointed in a kid who doesn’t care what the rest of the crowd does and feels no pressure to conform/feel miserable conforming?
    So I get Paco. And I have to share that I told T he had to join 2 clubs/sports or organizations as a freshman. He joined cross-country and clash of clans club…AND is signed up for battle of the books. So he’s up to 3, past my quota for him. I never expected that, either.
    And just the running part of the post made me feel really good inside. So thanks.

  7. actonbell says:

    I love how Paco said that he just liked coming home! Me, too. Comfort zone. But, as you say, we can’t grow if we always stay there. Wonderful post, Jocelyn, I loved your use of pictures, too.

  8. Maria says:

    Okay. Shit. We can’t be twins from different mothers anymore. All because you are a trail runner. Whoda figgered? I can’t run since I have RA and occasionally must use a cane, but the truth is that even if I could run, I wouldn’t. I hate getting dirty and/or sweaty. And I’m so jealous that you have a child who will sit patiently while you talk. My daughter would sit there but her eyes would be glazed and I would know that she was thinking about whether to cut her hair or not or what would be on that history quiz tomorrow. So, now I’m jealous of you and must think of something that I can do that you cannot. Can you can and freeze? Can you knit? Can you beat everyone you know at Jeopardy? C’mon, now. I need to find this ONE thing to get my bad self swagger back….

  9. Maria says:

    And I laughed out loud at Paco just wanting to come home because that is EXACTLY how I feel every day at work.

  10. alexandra says:

    Xavier is my Paco. And like Paco, he listens to reasons. THANK YOU for giving me the reasons. Now, dear Xavier, grab the tea and biscotti, it’s chat time.

    (lovely lovely LOVELy and LOVELY work here. Thank you)

  11. I still remember when I was a child and how people always asked me whether I was sporty or arty. My primary school teacher put paid to the notion that I would excel at the latter. “You’re rubbish at drawing”, she said and that was that. She also said I was rubbish at maths. I can’t do maths now and yet I’m pretty good at managing the two budgets I am responsible for. Run that one by me again.

    The reason for this verbose response to your excellent, cracking and wise post is that we have a tendency to either “think children into something” or “think them out of something”. No matter if the child is ours or not. They are either sporty or bookworms or arty or musical or this or that. Paco will probably become a sailing champion in ten years and he will look back and.. thank you. 🙂 Believe me. If not sailing, trekking or something similar. Give him time.

    Beautiful post. And full of maternal pride, too.

    Greetings from London.

  12. In our families, no two siblings are ever alike. Enjoy yours. Great meeting you at Shelly’s blog.

  13. Jim says:

    This made me miss you. Snif. Then I got to the Jocelyn Waiting gif and I spit up my salad. So, there’s that.

  14. Shelly says:

    I could read all day books of your essays. There are few writers, past or present, who could hold my interest tightly enough for me to say that of, but you are one. So please, get busy coming up with those books of your essays. I’ll wait. And, I’m one of your My People. High five.

  15. My kids refused to do any sort of sports and other than band and music lessons and the occasional science camp, weren’t really into extracurricular activities. Not organized ones, anyway. Fortunately they both had widely varied interests that kept them active and not tied to a computer!

    Being in nature is this nontheist’s idea of heaven, too!

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