Drag Your Feet to Slow the Circles Down

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  1. ds says:

    This is such a beautiful tribute to your dad. He was clearly quite the fellow (anyone who is willing to wear such a costume and pose with a dragon has my vote for Coolest Father of the Century, in every sense). Once Daddy’s girl, always Daddy’s girl.
    Happy Birthday, Jocelyn!!

  2. chlost says:

    This brings back such wonderful memories of my dad and the years since he has been gone. Your dad and mine have many things in common…the music, the performing, the daughter with bad hair.
    What a great view into someone’s life. Those “regular” guys of that generation who just wanted to be a dad, a good citizen, and sing a song once in a while. They never really knew how special they were and wouldn’t have believed it if you told them.

  3. What a wonderful post. You and your dad were gifts to each other. And now I have “Will the Circle be Unbroken” in my head.

    Happy Birthday!

  4. My daughter is so lucky that she has a father like your father–as a girl that grew up without a dad, I envy you such a father.

    This was so beautiful.

  5. lime says:

    i did not know this about you but i recall other posts about your dad and the relationship you shared with him. the two of you were indeed a tremendous gift to one another and it gladdens me to know that. the two of you were blessed.

    and how i love that last picture. oh yes i do.

  6. Robin Preble says:

    You have put tears in my eyes that were not there before I read this. Again, lovely.

  7. Shannon Stewart says:

    Never a wasted word but none left out, humorous, honest, relatable, thought provoking, unique. Lovely, as always, like you.

    With an attached and intimate family such as yours, no wonder you are intrigued by my Dallas like sprawl of a family. Can’t wait for the book!

  8. Shannon Stewart says:

    Do you read the “Modern Love” columns in the NYT? They are published on Sundays and my Sunday night ritual is to read the newest one right before I go to sleep. I think you could submit one for the column. Think about it.

  9. Lil says:

    What a wonderful tribute to your dad. And happy birthday.

    Oh, and that purple, green and pink top – aren’t you glad it isn’t the 80s anymore?

  10. Meg says:

    We are so very similar, you and I: both Daddy’s girls; both so lucky to have appreciated the bonds we have had while still living within them. A most happy birthday week to you!

  11. Erin says:

    So, so beautiful.

  12. Green Girl in Wisconsin says:

    I love your tribute. Your dad sounds so divine. And through you your kids WILL know him, which is a great gift, too, those stories and memories.

  13. Deborah says:

    Oh this choked me up, precisely because it wasn’t maudlin or overly-sentimental. But it was fierce. I can your dad in you, and you in him. Did you get your glee, your wacky joy, your great big heart from him?? .
    I liked the way you spun through the years, which gave a real sense of just how brief a life is, over almost before you know what you have. Your dad must have known how you felt about him, and if he didn’t completely get it, he does now. Even though I can’t begin to believe there’s anything left after death, I make an exception for the communication of feelings.
    I’m sorry for your kids that they don’t have him. Despite being 700 miles away, and not seeing my kids all that often, my dad had a big effect on them, especially my eldest. But he was their only grandfather, whereas yours have a spare!
    In fact, going back to look at the photos once again, I realize I didn’t have to ask that first question. The last picture says it all.

    Lucky guy he was, getting you for his birthday.

    • Jocelyn says:

      What’s interesting, my dear Deborah, is that no one would have described my dad as full of glee or wacky in the least. He was gentle, reliable, profoundly introverted–quite the Finn that way. He was perceptive and very astute about people. Most in his life had no idea of his great depths; I learned that an amazing test of character was whether or not someone “got” my dad. It’s often the same with Byron, ‘tho to a lesser extent. Anyhow, though he was thoughtful and steady to the end, he actually didn’t come across as anything full of gusto. But I’ll take that compliment of great big heart and attribute a large part of that to him, indeed.

      • Deborah says:

        How very interesting….I read the thousand-watt smile, the Magic Flute role and the singing as indications of some extroversion. And because there is a physical resemblance between the two of you, I lumped personality in there, too. Ah well, it won’t be the first time an introverted parent has produced an opposite kind of child. Just tonight we (kids and I) were discussing this, they realizing that I am the sole introvert in a sea of sometimes overwhelming personalities.

  14. VioletSky says:

    this makes my heart sing. sadly, but it is singing.

  15. Hilary says:

    This is one of the loveliest tributes to a parent that I’ve read. It’s written with such love, tenderness and humour. I’m sorry you no longer have your father in your life. I can relate to that. My Dad has 4 grandchildren – none of which were born before his passing. But I’m totally convinced he’s behind their smiling eyes and goofy sense of humour.

    A belated Happy Birthday to you, Jocelyn. You still share this date with a wonderful man.. and he with you.

  16. Jess says:

    Well now I need to go call my dad, dangit. What a beautiful tribute to your dad. And happy birthday, dear Jocelyn!!

  17. Kathryn says:

    It was lovely, Jocelyn. How nice that he got to know at least a couple of the grandchildren – a little bit. Best of all, he seemed happy. With them, with you, and with life. That has got to be a great thing to remember.

  18. magpie says:

    happy birthday. and, this is a really sweet post. also, the photo at the end is priceless.

  19. magpie says:

    PS I know this is wrong and self-promoting or something, but I need to share a post with you: http://www.magpiemusing.com/2009/01/groucho-moky.html

  20. Friko says:

    And he went away and you went away and so it goes.

    There isn’t really anything else to say, except that a lifetime’s appreciation, love and laughter are all that matter. It seems to me that you know that.

  21. Bone says:

    This was such a perfect piece, on life, and family, and being human. Thank you. I had not expected my eyes to moisten at such a seemingly odd hour in the middle of the day. Also, love the song.

  22. kmkat says:

    Such a lovely post to your dad. March 25 was my father’s birthday, too.

  23. Chantal says:

    Lovely post. I often struggle with how my father fits in with my life now. Him never having known my husband or my children. That is truly my biggest sadness, not that I miss him, but they they never will.

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