• Deep in the Heart

    Some of y’all might remember that my sister flew me to Denver last October so’s I could help her organize her stuff. Upon my return from that fun weekend, I posted something on Facebook about it…only to have a pal from college reply, “I would totally buy your plane ticket, if you’d come help me

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  • Doldrums Antidotes

    1) Antidote #1:  Get a good night’s sleep, which is exactly what I did the night of my previous post; when I woke up nine hours later, cobwebs had cleared, and a song–not a dirge–beat in my heart. This, in turn, meant I had to spend a fair amount of time in the kitchen that

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  • Each Day So Long It Feels Like a Month

    “Is the phrase ‘Slough of Despond’ from Harry Potter or what?” I holler to my husband, who is folding laundry four feet away. We both half-wonder why I’m hollering, what with him standing right there and all.  But, then again, it’s been that kind of day. A hollaback-at-your-knickers-folding-husband kind of day. In that moment, I

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  • Lots of Landmines; No Metal Detector: Part the Last

    A few years ago, I tuned in to a documentary about life in the Alaskan bush, where there are no roads, no stores, no schools. In particular, I was impressed with a 16-year-old girl who lived in the bush with her parents; in one memorable scene, she loaded up her sled, hitched up her dogs,

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  • Lots of Landmines, No Metal Detector: Part the Third

      With each successive child, it becomes harder to keep World at bay. The door that cracked open with Child #1 gets shoved even wider with Child #2, Child #3, and so on, until the barrier is blasted off its hinges to expose an entire startled-looking family licking Cheeto gunk off their fingers. The humbling that comes from giving way and giving

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  • Lots of Landmines, No Metal Detector: Part the Second

    If that bitch, World, isn’t open to negotiating with parents and insists on staring down the well-intentioned sleep deprived, hands on its Costco-shopping, NASCAR-jacket-wearing, Miley-Cyrus-twitching hips, then maybe the compromises have to take place elsewhere.  Like within the well-intentioned sleep deprived. Certainly, new parents have a few blissful months–even years–in which their personal values dominate, in

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  • Lots of Landmines, No Metal Detector: The First of Several on This Topic

    When a child is born, the parent enters into a decades-long negotiation with the world.  The script for this give-and-take reads: Parent, puffing out chest:  “Surrounded by a loving village of friends and family, my child will never question that she is loved.” World, yawning:  “Fiddlesticks.” Parent, still confident:  “I will provide steadiness and an open

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  • The Cookies Turned Out Pretty Well, by the Way

    ‘Twas holiday time. There, in a quiet, domestic scene, I baked molasses cookies, and my husband folded sheets of paper into gift boxes that would hold the treats. The Ipod shuffled, and a new song, low and mellow, poured into the kitchen:  “I search myself and everyone/To see where we went wrong…” “AHHHH, CRACK-ADDICTED MOTHER OF KEE-RIST,” I screeched, tailoring

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  • Protests Quashed

    For once and all, I’m surrendering. I don’t hate poetry after all. The issue in my early years seems to have been the wrong poetry applied to the wrong brain.  Now that I’m flailing through Older Years, I keep bumping into precisely the right stuff. Finally, I get it. Poetry says stuff differently enough that we

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  • Wherein This Becomes the Easiest Place for Me To Show Pictures To Family and Friends; For All Other Readers: I Appreciate Your Forebearance

    What with turning seven and all, Paco had a party the other day. Paco and Groom made the invitation. The rock monster on the highest ledge represents Paco.  He yells, “It me birthday!” The festivities began with some pinata whacking, which resulted in a tumble of fruit snacks, candy, and Scavenger Hunt clues. When I

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